What’s on My Nightstand — “STOP SELF-SABOTAGE!” (Review & Giveaway)
January 27, 2009 by Kimberly · 27 Comments
STOP SELF-SABOTAGE! Get Out of Your Own Way to Earn More Money, Improve Your Relationships, and Find the Success You Deserve is a new book by popular clinical psychotherapist Pat Pearson. It really focuses on helping people grow in a variety of areas – primarily health, relationships and career. Pat’s premise is that we unconsciously sabotage ourselves because we don’t truly believe that we deserve happiness in every area of our life.
The book shares exercises, quizzes, and stories along with personal reflections on breakthrough moments from Pat’s own life in order to help readers break the tendency to self-sabotage and to make their dreams a reality.
Although I’m not big on the whole “deserve” mentality, I understand the gist of what she’s trying to get across – that people need to feel worthy of their desires. (Honestly, the life that I have is much better than what I “deserve” based on some of my past attitudes and actions. As such, I focus on what I want rather than what I deserve!) I do agree with Pat that practically everyone engages in some (or many) forms of self-sabotage. I think that being more aware of our patterns can definitely help us to stop doing this as much. The other thing that I really agree with in this book is when Pat writes about Self Talk. We really do have to be careful regarding the thoughts that we allow ourselves to think and the things that we say to ourselves. Study after study has shown that our thoughts affect our emotions which affect our actions! In any event, I recommend this book to those who are trying to work on various aspects of their lives, (After all, aren’t we all “works in progress”?)
To win this book, share one way that you have “sabotaged” your health, relationships or career in the past in the “Comments” section below by January 31st.
(To read about what others are reading this month, visit What’s on Your Nightstand. Also, don’t forget that the Bloggy Giveaways Quarterly Carnival is this week!)
I have tried to go on a diet numerous times. I even signed up at the health club. All my efforts failed when I, once again, chose to indulge myself in what makes me happy – food. I think I would rather be where I am at now not so healthy but sure is happy…or am I?
I’ve sabatoged a past relationship because I was always puting myself down and thinking I wasn’t good enough for the guy I was with.
i’ve sabotaged my dreams by choosing to do unimportant but “easy” things instead (ie organizing my inbox instead of working on my novel).
I’ve sabotaged a job interview because of a past mistake. I didn’t feel I deserved this job so I wasn’t “on” during the interview.
Shonda’s last blog post..Tuesday Teasers
THank you for the great giveaway.
I would love to win. I have sabotaged my diets in the past my impulse buying my favorite chips and ice cream and telling myself its for my children or husband..never works.
Thank you
tatertot374@sbcglobal.net
I’ve sabotaged my health by not standing up for myself and saying “no, I don’t need seconds” and “no thanks, I don’t want any cake”.
Then further sabotaged my health when I gave up on myself.
I have sabotaged my health by convincing myself that eating one meal a day is healthy. No I am not underweight, just the opposite. I have basically killed my metalbolism.
Jeanine’s last blog post..Feeling the burn
I have sabotaged my health and career by staying in a job that I should have left.
Having the diet mindset instead of the lifetime change to my way of eating.
ndair4ce@cox.net
I regularly would sabotage myself when I was a student by finding other chores than studying.
I’ve sabatoged my health before by putting off going to the doctor for routine checkups and only giong when I am really really sick. I need to focus on preventative care for myslef!
daytoncat1(at)yahoo(dot)com
I’ve sabotaged my weight by limiting myself to too far a degree especially when it comes to water. Thanks for the chance.
I sabotage my diet by buying something unhealthy and bringing it home saying it is for someone else.
Thank you!
janetfaye (at) gmail (dot) com
Janet F’s last blog post..Good For The Kids Giveaway
i sabatoge myself with defeatest thinking
by drinking diet sodas! Not a good thing at all to do, not good for your body at all! Thank you kindly! skyxsky27(at)gmail.com
i have a trust issue with people and that tends to sabotage relationships thanks for the giveaway
I have sabotaged my health with way too many desserts!!!!
Becca’s last blog post..Day off
I have sabotaged relationships by speaking in anger
Audrey’s last blog post..Bloggy Carnival – Tupperware Giveaway
I sabbotage my health by my poor choices at the grocery store, mainly way too much soda and sweets.
Eating a carton of Oreos in one sitting
Eating wrong and not working out.
I am terrible I eat junk, no exercise, I am trying to teach my kids to eat better but I am slowly very slowly coming around to eating more fruit and vegetables
I have sabotaged my teaching career by advocating for my students. I no longer have a full time position and have to take sub work.
By eating way too much fast food!
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I sabotage myself by failing to get organised:(
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I sabotage myself by procrastinating.
I sabotage myself by never finishing a project