Since I’ve had my second son, people keep asking me “where’s the girl?” It’s so annoying. For one thing, we don’t choose the sex of our kids (unless we do some Petri dish type of thing). I really believe that God gives you the kids that you need. Fortunately for me, I’ve also been given what I wanted. (Since my husband and I are only definitely having two kids, I wanted them to be the same sex.) However, what if I were someone who really wanted a daughter?! I don’t think women (no man has ever asked me this) realize how potentially hurtful this type of question could be.
In any event, I have a new answer (which I gave to a nurse yesterday). “I borrow the girl at least once a month from a single mom friend to give her a break. It helps her out and it helps my family get our girl fix.”
Now, perhaps one day we will adopt a little girl if we move out of the city, but my life doesn’t revolve around that happening – I’m not even sure that I have the energy (or inclination) for three kids. As women/moms, I think that we need to be careful to not assume that every mom wants one of each (a boy and a girl). (For the record, I know people who have two girls who are perfectly content too!)